I
got a personal feel of ‘Phailin’, the 'very severe cyclonic storm' that ravaged
coastal Odisha on the 12th October, 2013. It originated from a
depression on the coast of Thailand
and moved towards India.
Tuesday, 22 October 2013
Wednesday, 18 September 2013
The Truant Specs
This happened for the first time in the late 90s; my specs
played truant. One day, in my Bank, i suddenly found that my specs were
missing. Occasionally, i used to put down the specs on my table while working.
I must have done the same that day. However, when i looked for it, it was not
on my table. I searched for it among the papers lying there but it was not to
be found!
In the Bank,
following the Management Concept of ‘Floor Walking’, i used to occasionally walk around in the
Banking Hall, to ensure that the customers were being served properly. In this
process, i used to go the junior officers, sit in front of them for a while and
then come back. I thought that while doing this, i might have removed my specs
and kept it on some officer’s table. So i went around the whole banking hall
and searched for my specs. But it had vanished into thin air!
I became sad at the thought of shelling out some money for
an expense which was not necessary; however, i had no choice other than getting
a new pair. For this i got my eyes tested once again, which also involved some
outgo. Sometime before that i had read somewhere, “If you spend a hundred
rupees on some item out of your own volition, you will not feel unhappy; if you
lose a hundred rupees, you will definitely feel so.” Such a feeling engulfed my
heart :(((((((((((
This feeling tapered off in a few days but got revived after
some more days when a customer came to me, apologized profusely, took out a
pair of specs from his brief case and handed it to me saying that on that day,
he had by mistake put my specs which were lying on my table, in his brief case
while leaving! He belonged to a far off place and could return it to me only
during his subsequent visit!
Did i become happy on getting back my lost property? Or,
unhappy at the revival of a sad feeling?
Since then, i have made it a practice, whenever i change my
specs, to preserve the old specs to use it as a standby in case the specs in
use go missing.
THE SECOND ACT
THE SECOND ACT
Five years after that, my specs repeated the disappearing
act at another place. One evening, i discovered that my specs had gone missing.
The wife and i turned the house upside down, searching for the missing treasure
but it eluded us. I tried to recollect the places i had visited that day to
think over the possibility of having left the specs there. We had gone to
restaurant for lunch that day. Often i used to remove my specs while taking
food, for better comfort. So there was a possibility of having left the specs
there. I felt lucky to have brought the restaurant bill, which contained its
phone number. I was about to call the restaurant when i remembered that we had
gone there by car and i had driven it. I could not have driven during the
return journey had i left the specs at the restaurant! :(((((((((((((((((((((
Where had the specs gone? Oh, where?
The wife had a flash! It might have gone with the
kitchen-waste to the compost-pit in our backyard. What a weird idea, I
wondered.
I have a penchant for gardening; wherever I have gone in the
course of my job, i have set up a garden in all possible spots, in the
backyard, on the roof-top, on the balcony, that is any spot where some soil can
be placed. I used to utilize kitchen-waste to fertilise the soil. On my
insistence, the wife puts two small bins in the kitchen for dumping the waste;
one for non-biodegradable waste and the other for the biodegradable type.
Daily, i take the second bin and disgorge the contents in my garden.
The wife felt - I do not know why- that the specs might have
gone to one of these bins. The housemaid had already cleaned out the first; so
there was no way to check it. So she (the wife) thought that we can look into
the other one. The contents of the second bin also had been removed, i.e.,
transferred to the compost-pit in the garden. She asked me to go and look in
the pit. I pooh-poohed the suggestion but on her insistence and because it was my specs to be searched for, i went and
examined the pit. As i had predicted, the specs were not there.
The wife does not have faith in my ability to do anything
worthwhile. Also, she does not give up anything so easily. She looked at me
with disdain and asked our maid to do the search again, promising her a reward
if she found the specs. The maid went to our backyard, triumphantly returned
after about 10 minutes, with an ear-to-ear smile, proudly holding out my
missing specs and demanded the promised reward! The wife threw another
dismissive look towards me, took the specs and regally proceeded to fulfill her
promise to the maid!! I sheepishly tried to suppress the happiness on my face
at the retrieval of my lost accessory.
Till today, i have not been able to decipher as to how the
specs traveled all the way to the compost pit!!!
And, i have also not been able to know why the specs did not
go to the other dust-bin, the one meant for receiving the non-biodegradable
house-waste. Had it opted for this choice, it would not have been possible to
retrieve it as the contents would have gone to the street-side garbage-bin and
then, would have been taken away by the cleaning staff of the Municipal
Corporation! I thanked my luck for this.
LAST EPISODE OF THIS SERIAL?
LAST EPISODE OF THIS SERIAL?
My specs played for the third time recently. The open area
in front of my house is of small size and it is filled with flowering plants
and creepers. My backside garden is a largish area. I have planted flowering
bushes in the area adjacent to the house. The remaining area is used as a
kitchen-garden. I have started planting fruit-bearing trees in a part of this
area. Sometime ago, I found that a few champa
plants appeared there from nowhere. I was pleasantly surprised and have allowed
these to grow. They were followed by two kadamba
plants. I love kadamba flowers. Kadamba trees remind one about
Radha-Krishna rasalila. I treated these unplanted trees as pleasant
gifts from nature to a nature-lover like me. However the kadamba plants grew very fast and became tall trees, overshadowing
the fruit-bearing trees. So, reluctantly and with a heavy heart, i cut down one
of these. Kadamba trees have
spreading branches and large leaves. So, after rather cruelly felling the
growing tree, i cut down its branches and separated the leaves. I spread this
huge quantity of leaves in the garden to decompose and become natural manure.
With all this work, i became tired and came back to the house to take some
rest.
Oh, suddenly i discovered that the ridge on my nose was
bare! The specs were not sitting there!
I entered the house and told the wife about the disappearing
act of the specs. She let go a scream and asked me to go back to the garden and
search. Giving up my desire for rest, i rushed back. A look at the big area
covered with leaves nipped in the bud any hope of retrieving my lost property.
However, I did search the area but soon lost hope and patience. When i came back
to the house empty-handed and empty-nosed, the wife dispatched the maid-servant
to do the search. Half-heartedly, i followed her. Both of us searched and
searched but luck eluded us. She lost patience and started coming back; i
followed her almost limping. Then i saw a spark; the rims of the specs, perched
on a raised branch of the felled tree, were gleaming gloriously in the morning sun!!! A
sigh of huge relief escaped my nostrils.
What was the wife’s reaction? Better i shall not tell.:)))))))))))
I pray and hope that this will be last Episode in this
Serial.
Tuesday, 10 September 2013
The First Born
If you utter a word before a baby, it imitates and parrot-like
repeats the word. In the same way, when this morning, i received an overseas
call to listen the words ‘Happy Birthday’, i repeated the two words.
It was a call from Daughter I, who lives in the U S of A, to
wish me on my birthday. I repeated the two words to her as today is her birthday also. Yes, Daughter I and
i share our birth day. It is a good coincidence. Both of us consider ourselves
lucky for this.
First Born children have certain advantages over their later
born siblings. Birth of the first child is a thrilling and exciting experience
for a couple. The expectant mother dreams and plans about how she would welcome
the family’s new member. The joys of the thought ‘I am going to have a baby.’
have few comparisons.
In Odisha, a special festival is earmarked for the first
born child. It is called ‘Prathamastami’ which usually comes in November. On
this day, the First Born gets new clothes. She/he takes bath early morning,
wears new clothes and her face is decorated with chandan (sandalwood) paste.
The child’s maternal uncle provides
these new clothes every year. Puja is
performed and special ‘pitha’ (cakes) and other tasty dishes are prepared on
this occasion. A special item called ‘Enduri Pitha’ is prepared. It is a
steamed item made from rice, cheese, coconut, sugar and other ingredients. The
dough along with the stuffing is placed in leaves of turmeric plants and then steamed. In the process of steaming, some juice of turmeric leaves enters the dough and gives enduri pitha its unique and distinct flavour and taste.
Ou leaves also are used to prepare enduri pitha.‘Ou’ is a typical tree found in Odisha and some parts of West Bengal. It bears round fruits which are sour. The 5 petals of its flower evolve into a fruit. The fruit is added to some curries to give a sour taste. The fruit is also used to prepare a kind of mouth-watering pickles. Banana leaves also are used to prepare Enduri pitha. However, the unique flavour of enduri pitha can be had only by using turmeric leaves.
Ou leaves also are used to prepare enduri pitha.‘Ou’ is a typical tree found in Odisha and some parts of West Bengal. It bears round fruits which are sour. The 5 petals of its flower evolve into a fruit. The fruit is added to some curries to give a sour taste. The fruit is also used to prepare a kind of mouth-watering pickles. Banana leaves also are used to prepare Enduri pitha. However, the unique flavour of enduri pitha can be had only by using turmeric leaves.
The second and the other
children are not given this special treatment.
When Daughter I was born, the wife was in her parental home
in Odisha, India. I was in U P. The good news
was conveyed to me by telegram. I have preserved this telegram (I have added a
photo of this in my post ‘Mother Serious Stop Come Soon’ dated 26.06.2013. )
While in the school, she started learning Odissi dance.
Later, she also started learning painting.
It was a pleasant job to select a suitable match for her.

Later, she also started learning painting.
It was a pleasant job to select a suitable match for her.

As in the case of all fathers, my eyes became moist when she went to her sasural.The mother's emotions were less controlled.
When this ‘baby’ of ours had her first baby (a girl), she told us proudly “I have made her.”
I told her what i had seen in an advertisement for baby-food, ‘It feels like
someone has taken out a part of you and yet has made you complete!’
Wish us a happy birthday!
Friday, 30 August 2013
Didi
Didi visited us and stayed with us for a few days last week.
She is the elder sister of one of my best friends; if i can
rank my friends, her brother would occupy the Top Position. To be exactly
correct, i should say ‘occupied’ because he is no more. He succumbed to cancer
9 years ago, when he was in his early fifties. Like him, i used to address her
as ‘Didi’ and still do that.
I cannot describe how close we were; I can only say that we
were very close. Our friendship lasted for exactly 40 years, that is, till he was
called back. We became friends the day we began our College-life. We had the
same subjects; we were in the same Tutorial Group. We were together till our
Post-Graduate Course. However, our choice of careers made us take two different
paths but we were always in touch. First there were letters written in long
hand; this gave way to e-mails. Whenever we happened to visit our city at the
same time, we were definitely meeting. Whenever one of us happened to visit the
other’s place of work, we made it a point to meet each other. And each such
meeting would start with a bear hug.
I have preserved most of his letters and print-outs of his
e-mails. His last e-mail to me was on the 18th May, 2003.
Both brother and sister remained unmarried. After the death
of their mother and father within a span of one and a half months, she took
charge of his household while he remained engrossed in the demands of his job.
On the 10th May, 2003, he mailed me saying that he had undergone an
operation to remove a tumour which was found to be benign. So I felt relieved.
Four months later he informed me that another tumour, this time malignant, had
developed below his knee and doctors were considering the option of amputation
of a leg. He was worried more about Didi regarding how she would manage when he
won’t be around. Shortly thereafter, the cancerous growth overpowered him.
That was the beginning of Didi’s ordeal. She did not find
any encouragement from her uncles and cousins.
This was a trial by fire for her. She emerged as a strong
person, steeled her mind and took courage in both her hands. She decided to
live her own life and took charge of her life.
He was in Central Govt. Service and was posted in Delhi when the end came.
In spite of all the efforts of her well-wishers and his admirers in the Govt.
she did not get family-pension or other benefits from Govt., as a sister is not
entitled for these as per Govt. Regulations. Meanwhile, compounding her
problems, some unsocial elements tried to take advantage of her helpless position
and grab her parental home and the land on which it stood.
She was undaunted. She took a momentous decision. She
decided to sell it off the sprawling parental house and live in my city which
is nearby. God helped her. She found a person who was a good friend of her
father and who agreed to let a portion of his building. With the help of some
kindly persons, she quickly disposed off her parental house and occupied the
rented accommodation. She has been living there since 2004. Another close friend
of ours, who was a high ranking Govt. Officer and a couple of erstwhile
subordinates of my deceased friend, provided her with moral and logistical
help.
The courageous lady lives all alone there and manages
everything herself.
My job had taken me all over India. So i had no means for
helping her settle down. I retired in 2009 and settled in this city. Sine then,
i have been giving her a little moral support to live a reasonably trouble-free
life. The interest on funds left by her brother and the sale-proceeds of her
parental house takes care of her financial needs.
I shall cite only one example of the grit and determination
of this courageous lady, who never admits defeat. She lives all alone and
occasionally, memories of her loving brother overwhelm her. On one such time,
she felt very depressed and was choked with emotion. She could not swallow the
food she was taking. She felt like giving up the effort and just lying in her
bed. The next moment, she gathered back her courage and decided to fight the depression
head on. She told herself that if she would not take food, she would die and
that would be letting down her brother. So after pushing each morsel to the
food channel in her mouth, she drank some water to force the food to go inside!
I salute the indomitable spirit of this brave lady.
Thursday, 15 August 2013
Happy Independence Day
Let us celebrate India's Independence Day this year with Vande Mataram in Odissi Dance choreographed by Sharmila Mukherjee!
TAIL PIECE
Democracy is the recurrent suspicion that more than half of the people are right more than half the time. - E B White
Thursday, 8 August 2013
Food for Thought
I don’t know when the buffet-system came to India but it
has spread like wildfire. A buffet is a meal set on tables from where people
help themselves.
Earlier, on events like marriages and other social
occasions, the guests were requested to sit on mats spread out on floors to be
served the common meal. Plantain-leaves cut to size and thoroughly washed, were
laid in front of each person. The different items of the meal were served on
this for consumption of each guest. There were servers, each carrying a
container filled with an item of the meal, going around and serving it to the
guests. They would entreat and beseech each guest to have a little more of the
item. The host would go round to ensure that each guest was served well and
would tell the server to give a little more of the dish to this guest or that
one. He would often press the guests to have a little more. This practice is
still prevalent in some rare cases.
Then came benches and long tables so that the guests would
not have to squat to have the meal. Servers going around and the host going to
each guest, pressing her/him to have a little more continued. Guests did not
have to ask to get the meal.
There were occasions when a particular guest would like to
have a little more of a particular item. Hesitating to ask openly for an item,
she/he would ask the server to give that particular item to the person sitting
next to her/him. The server would get the hint; he would give the item to the
person for whom it would be asked as well as to the first person. This way, the
person would be seen as one taking care of another and he himself would get
what he wanted. The joke was that kheer
got the synonym of tasmai as a result
of this practice. ‘Tasmai’ in
Sanskrit means ‘to him/her’. The first person would ask the server to give kheer to ‘tasmai’ (to the other person). This way, kheer got the alternative
name ‘tasmai’!
‘Pangti Bhojan’ (sitting in a line and being served) has
given way to the buffet system. In this, various items of food are laid in a
row on tables. Guests have to move along these tables from dish to dish and
pick up the items of their choice. The sympathetic
Hindi equivalent of ‘buffet’ is ‘swaruchi
bhojan’ - having food-items of one’s choice. This term refers to the fact
that out of the fare laid out on the tables, one can choose the items of one’s
choice. The adversarial translation of the term is ‘khade khade khana’ (eating
while standing).
The advantages of the buffet system are that it needs less
effort and a little lower expense by the host. It requires less sitting
arrangement and less management. Only a few chairs are provided; most of the
guests take food, standing.
However, with the buffet system, all the personal
touches are gone or are heavily diluted. Guests have to first queue up to get
the plates and again queue up before the tables on which the food items are
placed. Most of the time, there would be a big rush before the tables and one
has to struggle to get food. A guest has to stretch out his/her hands (like a
beggar?) to be served by attendants. (Of course in some cases there won’t be
any attendant; one has to follow self-service system.) Instead of the food
coming to you, you have go to the food! The guest’s woes do not end there;
after moving in the queue to be served the different items, he/she has to
balance the food-laden plate on the fully-stretched palm of one hand and eat
with the other, standing unsteadily all the while! If the attention is slightly
diverted or the guest is not very careful, the plate would tilt and the contents
would drop either on her/his clothes, or on those of the persons standing
nearby. Sometimes, while moving a little to have
some space, the guest would trip, causing embarrassment.
Of course, a few chairs are provided to enable one to sit and have food
comfortably but the number of chairs provided is grossly insufficient to
accommodate even a fraction of the number of guests invited. Sometimes, this
leads to musical chairs. If after having secured a chair, one leaves to get a
second helping, one would come back to find that the chair has been occupied by
another struggling guest. :((((
Caterers play a trick to reduce consumption of costly items.
They place the less costly items at the beginning of the row and the costly
items (including non-vegetarian items) at the end, so that by the time a guest reaches
there, his/her plate would be more or less full and he/she would feel
embarrassed to take too much of these items.
Many times the rush dissuades a guest to go for a
second helping. Often there is an array of less costly but more luring
and inviting pre-meal items like pani
puri (golgoppa), chat, papdi chat, etc. So by the time one goes for the main
dishes, one’s stomach is already full!
However, there are exceptions where more costly and tasty pre-food
starters are provided.
Of course, many of these problems are taken care of in buffets organized by people in the higher income group as also in star hotels.
Have I given you some food? Some food for thought?
Bon appetit!
Friday, 2 August 2013
A Rainbow of Dances
At the start of the 2010 Commonwealth Games, Indian classical dance forms Odissi, Bharatnatyam, Kathak, Manipuri, Mohiniyattam and Kuchipudi were presented in the Opening Ceremony. These presented a colourful rainbow. Here it is.
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